Heidi, my lovely bride of nearly 20 years, will love reading this blog post. Not so much because I wrote it, mind you, but because of the things Kirsten Dunst said that inspired it.
A little background: Heidi has had a bit of a crazy career, but a successful one nonetheless. And much of that was her own choice. She wanted to be a mom in as intimate a way as she could when our daughter was born back in 2000. So she stayed home for about five years, loving, doting, raising, teaching and spending huge quantities of quality time with our daughter. She loved every minute of it. (Or at least enough of those minutes to cherish the entire experience!) Wrapped around that half-decade are forays into teaching and directing middle school and high school drama, producing radio shows for both social commentator Dick Staub and Focus on the Family founder Dr. James Dobson, and, now, running her own flourishing home-based sewing business.
Heidi believes fervently in the way men and women complement one another, that we often have very different gifts and talents, and that each of us should embrace who we are as God created us—as we’re told, “male and female he created them.” But that viewpoint is increasingly challenged these days, and it’s harder and harder to see the proper path forward while still holding tight to the past, to the traditions God Himself initiated.
And that’s why she’ll be so thrilled to read what Spider-Man actress Kirsten Dunst said in an interview with Harper’s Bazaar:
I feel like the feminine has been a little undervalued. We all have to get our own jobs and make our own money, but staying at home, nurturing, being the mother, cooking—it’s a valuable thing my mom created. And sometimes you need your knight in shining armor. I’m sorry. You need a man to be a man and a woman to be a woman. That’s why relationships work.
Heidi will immediately say, It’s about time somebody like Kirsten was brave enough to say something like that! It’s how so many of us feel, but it’s like we’ve all been told to keep that part of ourselves hidden away. But God doesn’t want us to keep it so quiet.
So the sooner I stop writing, the sooner she can read this. (And you too, of course!)
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